Step One: Finding the Right Doctor
Step Two: Find the Medication
Step Three: Exercise
Researchers say that exercise acts like antidepressants in increasing the activity of serotonin and/or norepinephrine in your brain. Working out releases endorphins and other hormones that reduce pain, induce euphoria, have a calming effect and combat stress.
Step Four: Eat Well
Avoid caffeine , white flour and processed food and sugar
Eat More- protein (eggs, milk, cheese, yogurt, meat, fish, chicken, seeds, nuts)complex starches (whole grains, beans, potatoes); vegetables (broccoli, spinach, squash)
vitamins (vitamin B-complex, vitamins E and C, and a multivitamin)
minerals (magnesium, calcium, and zinc) omega-3 fatty acids
Step Five: Sleep
Step Six: Get outside in the Sun
Step Seven: Support and Friendships
Step Eight: Get Involved
Step Nine: A Gratitude Journal
Keeping a gratitude journal is one of the most effective happiness boosters.
Step Ten: Therapy (lets not do this with medication alone.
Step Eleven: Prayer and Meditation
Step Twelve: Time
Funny thing we went to bed late last night and I still took a shower saying " If I get woken up early by the lil one I will be screwed and will not be able to take a shower" lol
Psalm 4:8 I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.
EVALUATE THE ANGER:
Anger is one of my ten basic, God-given emotions. This emotion can be CONSTRUCTIVE or DESTRUCTIVE—depending upon my response. The focus of this group is on giving Jesus a “NANO SECOND” (just one billionth of a second!), to help me use all of my emotions according to God’s design, for my life, and to appropriately change my pattern of relating to my responsibilities and to other people.
It is both healthy and necessary to feel anger and to talk about my anger. I should recognize anger as my own emotion and avoid hurting the objects of my anger— keeping my anger as a feeling not an action. Looking at anger as a feeling may also reveal a larger hurt, habit or hang up that is hiding behind the anger. It is what I do with my feelings that will allow me to fall into sin. I need to check the motives for my behavior. Rudeness under the disguise of being honest is still rudeness.
There are two kinds of anger: healthy adaptive anger and unhealthy needless anger. Healthy anger is based on being protective of myself or others. Unhealthy needless anger is based on my resentment which leads to desiring revenge. Recognizing and accepting my responsibility for unhealthy needless anger is the first step towards true freedom from anger.
DAILY QUIET TIME WITH GOD:
Anger causes me to live in conflict and not in peace. I will try to remember that God is in charge of my life and He loves me unconditionally. I will commit to having a daily quiet time with God.
TAKING A “TIME-OUT”:
When I feel body arousal, I need to recognize that as a sign that I am getting angry. I will use a “time-out” to isolate myself from the trigger for my anger and to prevent the anger from becoming too intense. I will ask myself, “What is making me angry? And “How is this trigger about me?” I will reappraise the situation to keep my behavior under control. I will do something physical to release the adrenaline rush and energy in a healthy way, such as going for a walk or cleaning a closet. I will avoid alcohol, caffeine, or other medicating substances during “time-out.” Looking at anger as a feeling may also reveal a larger hurt, habit or hang up that is hiding behind the anger.
CONFRONTING IN LOVE:
After the time-out, I will go back and deal with what made me angry. If I leave an issue unresolved, it is likely to return later. I will not use the confrontation as an opportunity to blame, shame, seek revenge, or to rationalize my anger. Examples of confronting in love while stating my feelings are: “I love you, here’s how this action makes me feel,” or “I feel devalued when this is said or done.”
WORK THE 12 STEPS AND CONNECT WITH OTHERS:
I will commit to working the 12 Steps, to attend regularly the Celebrate Recovery meetings, and to getting an Accountability Partner for my anger management. (We strongly suggest each woman obtain a Life Recovery Bible and the Participant’s Guides, which are the tools we use in Celebrate Recovery.)
FORGIVE:
I will become willing to forgive myself and others. The Lord forgave you, so you must be willing to forgive others (Colossians 3: 13b NLT). Forgiveness is NOT forgetting what has happened. Forgiveness IS changing the way I think. Forgiveness IS my giving up my desire for revenge.
As women who struggle with anger, we may not recognize that our anger has foundations in other basic emotions—usually fear or pain. These basic emotions may have become damaged as adults or when we were children. Some of us may have been abused or neglected as children. Others may have lost a parent or a loved one by their death. Many of us may have been abused or cheated on by a spouse or boyfriend.
We may have learned how to express anger inappropriately from our parents, other relatives, or friends. We did not realize that when we lashed out in anger, we were ignoring our fear, pain, or another deeper hurt, habit or hang-up. Others of us did not even realize we were struggling with anger because we did not express it, but rather, we stuffed it down and kept silent.
As our lives and relationships progressed we may have become addicted to the physical symptoms of anger. Some of us may have felt a momentary euphoria as the anger was released. Some of us did not recognize we were actually hurting our loved ones and ourselves in the process. In the heat of the moment, releasing our anger was all that mattered.
Some of us felt our anger was justified based on the object of anger’s actions, i.e., “If he hadn’t come home late from work, I wouldn’t have had to yell at him” or “If she had not talked back to me, I would not have had to slap her” or “My husband deserves me calling him names, yelling and fighting because he cheated on me.”
Many of us feel intense shame and guilt over the actions that we have committed during our unhealthy expressions of anger. We have vowed to never act that way again, only to find ourselves back in the same situations, unable to change it under our own power. Anger has confused us and gotten the better of us time and time again.
Some of us did not understand that anger is a God given emotion and that we could use it in healthy, productive ways. Being angry meant that we were bad, somehow faulty; even that we were not Christians. We have allowed our shame and guilt to create the false belief that we could not turn to God for his comfort, strength and guidance. We did not feel worthy of His help or love. We remained stuck in using anger as a coping mechanism and to get the desired results from others.
Celebrate Recovery uses the 12 Steps and its related Scripture as the biblical model for living your life. A Step Study is a personal journey though each of these steps in a confidential group lead by a facilitator who has completed a study.
We use Celebrate Recovery's four participants books as we progress through them in group. When you finish walking out the steps in the study you will have worked your hurts, habits, and hang-ups through each step. A Step Study is a long-term commitment to the members of the group. It will typically take 7 to 9 months to complete the study. The groups remain open to new members joining them through the first study guide. From Step Book Study Guide 2 on they close off and no additional newcomers are allow. After completing the Step Study, we hope you will join with us as we minister to others dealing with their hurts, habits and hang-ups.
Our Step Study groups generally take place on a different night so as to
I wish I could show my love to my husband and children. I am not sure I know how anymore.
NO
No peace in me
Even tho we are on summer break I still cannot extend patience to others
I am being faithful in my journaling this evening
I have seemed to not have any self control over my emotion of anger, depression or anxiety today.
I am unable to define joy at this moment
I did all the necessary things in my household today.
did not go out of my way to do something that was not required of me today.
I need an edit button and complete this day over until my CR meeting.
I just had a hard day. I could barely function. All I could do is sit at my desk and read. I could not get myself to be productive. I am so tired of this occurring, I want my life back. I want my energy back.
I need to get up and give my children some loves and tuck them into bed. I know now that I did not give them that today and I am promptly making the choice to change that.
Step One, and I began to moan, I cannot do this on my own.
Then took Step Two, began to pray, “Restore me God, I ask today.”
I took Step Three, gave up my will. Just maybe God will love me still.
Step Four, I am not off the hook. A searching, careful, honest look.
And on the Fifth, I said aloud, “I’ve done some harm, and I’m not proud.”
I took Step Six, and got prepared to be set free, yet I was scared.
Asked God on Seven: “Take them away, all my defects, this I pray.”
And on the Eighth, the list was long, recognizing all the wrong.
I took Step Nine, put down my pride. Made amends, no time to hide.
Step Ten, each day I cannot slack, I pray to God, “Keep me on track.”
On Eleven, I seek to know: God’s will each day, which way to go.
Step Twelve, it is New Life indeed. I’ll spread the Word to those in need.
~Anonymous
Note: I need to remember that I need to count to 10 for me, not for them to do what they are told!
Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man but in the end it leads to death.John Baker states in Life's Healing Choices that this verse lets us know we cannot trust our human nature to lead us out of our problems. Left on its own our sin nature will tend to do wrong desire to be God and try to play God.
I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me.Romans 7:21-23
So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members.Even David felt it too in Psalms 32:3
When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day longThe book illustrates this frustration very well on page 19 John Baker writes:
He speaks of the game Wacka Wacka at Chuck E Cheese's, pictured here is a similar game Whac a Mole. You use a big mallet to beat down these little moles that keep popping up. But when you whack one, 3 more pop up. you whack those 5 more pop up. The machine is a parable of life. We whack down one conflict and another pops up. It is frustrating because we cannot get them all knocked down at the same time.Matthew 5:3 Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor.Admitting your need is what being "spiritually poor is all about.
Psalm 32:4-5 (TLB) My strength evaporated like water on a sunny day until I finally admitted all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide them.Wisdom in Proverbs 28:13 (TEV)
You will never succeed in life if you try to hide your sins. Confess them and Give up; the God will show mercy to you.
2 Corinthians 12:10 (MSG) I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become!
God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble
I have a problem, I need help. I am depressed, I am full of anxiety, hurt, resentment, my anger is out of control, I am codependent and I have a lack of boundaries. God, I am tired of living this way and using the coping strategies that I am currently using. I am without the ability to forgive, let go, and be happy on my own. I am powerless to manage all this and my life on my own.
I am on the road to healing!
I am making the choice to complete them!
